By Molly Patrick
Sep 29, 2018
At one point or another, we all have our bouts of eating bullshit food that belongs nowhere near our face. I’ve been there plenty of times. There are many situations that have the potential of sparking a full blown orgy with fat, sugar and salt. The kind of orgy that you drive way into the desert to attend. There are tents. There are Mexican blankets. There is dust. There might be goggles. You get the idea.
Events leading up to such an orgy with fat, sugar and salt could be:
A stupid stressful week.
A job you hate but for some reason you keep showing up to.
A nasty fight, complete with hurtful words you don’t really mean.
Someone squashing your light, and you allowing your beautiful light to be dimmed.
A super hectic schedule, filled with way too many to-dos to even consider batching.
A trip out of town.
When we initially turn to food that we know DAMN well isn’t healthy for us, it’s usually because we’re craving distraction and extermination of our pain and upset. Our loneliness. Our boredom. Our frustration. Our fear. Our insecurities. We feel the need for a hit of something that makes us feel good in the hopes that our negative feelings will disappear. Chocolate, cookies, potato chips, cheese, ice cream – any of these will do the job and give us a burst of instant gratification, making us momentarily forget about our problem du jour.
This is slippery though, because the foods that give us an instant hit of feel good are also the foods that are highly addictive. Let’s work this out. Say you dive into a bag of cheese puffs because you’re in the middle of a hot flash, your boss is acting like a misogynistic douche, and your asshole kid is being impossible. Eventually your hot flash ends, maybe you decide to quit your job and your kid apologizes to you, yet your cravings for cheese puffs linger. This is because their soothing effects are now looped in your brain and your brain wants more, whether you’re having a frustrating moment or not.
The next time you have that impulse, that aching, that urge to drive to the desert and join the salt, sugar and fat orgy, stop and think it through. You might be having a super hard moment right now, but even really, really, really hard moments that feel impossible, they pass.
Can you ride the wave?
Can you feel what you’re feeling without trying to make it go away?
Can you simply observe how you’re feeling without reacting?
Can you honor yourself by allowing the uncomfortable feeling to come full circle without cutting it short?
Can you be okay with not being okay for a span of time?
The next time stress, anger, fear and frustration come up and your knee-jerk reaction is to eat some bullshit food, stop whatever you’re doing and just pause. Close your eyes and imagine that you’re walking on a beautiful trail. Pretty soon, you can’t go forward any further because there is a huge drop off in front of you. The path continues to the left and to the right, and it is your job to choose which path to take.
You stop and ponder. There is a sign in the shape of an arrow pointing left and one pointing right. The path going left looks like an easy downhill path that takes a slippery turn towards the bottom. The path going right looks to be slightly uphill with a beautiful vista after the incline.
The sign pointing to the left says:
Choose me if you want to feel really good for about three minutes.
Warning: You will feel worse than you feel right now after those three minutes are up.
The sign pointing to the right says:
Choose me if you want to feel good the majority of the time.
Warning: You will feel uncomfortable for a short period of time, but it will pass.
The Buddhist nun and writer, Pema Chodron says:
“If we’re willing to give up hope that insecurity and pain can be exterminated, then we can have the courage to relax with the groundlessness of our situation. This is the first step on the path.”
So tell me my dear, which path will you choose? There is no wrong or right answer to this. One just makes you feel better overall than the other. You might choose to go left today and right tomorrow. You might think about going right for three weeks before you actually venture up that path. You might be ready to turn right this VERY moment.
Just keep in mind that you do have a choice and you are responsible for not only making that choice, but everything that comes as a result of that choice.
Sometimes stopping and thinking it through before you act is enough to help you see the bigger picture and motivate you to make a choice that will nurture your future self. Talk to me in the comments below and tell me about the path that you’ve been on lately.
And then turn right and make this Garlic Tahini Dressing dressing to slather on a huge, vibrant Dirty salad. This dressing is similar to the original and has only been in meal plans until now. Roasted tahini is less bitter than raw tahini. I always use roasted.
- 3/4 cup water
- 2/3 cup tahini (165g)
- 2 tablespoons coconut aminos
- 1 tablespoon brown rice vinegar
- 1 small garlic clove, peeled and left whole
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- Place all of the ingredients into your blender and blend until creamy and smooth.
- Store in the fridge.
Wishing you a happy week. May it be filled with pausing before you act.