Saying Goodbye + Veggie Fried Black Rice & Lentils

Veggie Fried Black Rice & Lentils

This past Monday I said goodbye to Arizona and hello to the Big Island of Hawaii. Hawaii is now home – for the time being anyway.

The first time that I visited the Big Island, I was living in the Bay Area and my girlfriend (Luanne) and I needed a break from the traffic, the noise, the grey, and the fog, so we booked a ticket and had a blissed out 10 day escape. We relaxed, we swam, we snorkeled, we read, we drove around the island, we ate fresh mangoes and papaya and pineapple. We did what people do when in Hawaii for vacation. We chillaxed the hell out.

After 10 days, we weren’t ready to leave, but work was waiting for us, and at the time, we both had bosses other than ourselves who were eagerly awaiting our return. As we solemnly packed our bags to go home, Luanne looked at me and said: “Hey, let’s move here one day”. I believe “Sign me the fuck up” was my exact response.

And there it was – our message that one day we would call this place home had been released from our brain, into our mouth, past our lips, and into the universe, where it was left to marinate and ripen.

When we arrived back in San Francisco it was late, so we collected our bags and took the last train into the East Bay to our crappy (and unbelievably expensive) house in Berkeley. As we were waiting for the train, bundled up and missing the warm Hawaiian nights, a drunk chick threw up right in front of us. Her puke landed inches from our feet.

Welcome home us.

Luanne and I were seconds away from turning around, catching the last train back to the airport and returning to Aloha, but our train home interrupted our escape plans, so we boarded with the rest of the Saturday night drinkers. We found a seat and crossed our fingers for no more drunky debacles.

Later that morning, at 3 AM, Luanne and I were woken up by the sound of our car alarm going off. We shot out of bed and ran outside in the rain to find the driver’s side window of our Jeep smashed in and glass everywhere.

Between the puke and the broken glass, I took it as a sign that we weren’t meant to be back in the Bay Area. We wanted nothing more than to leave our bags packed, sell all of our shit and go back to Hawaii ASAP. But it wasn’t time – it needed to marinate a bit longer. The bug had been planted though, and we were confident that one day we would make the move.

Four years later, here we are.

It’s pretty anti-climactic, really. We loved the Big Island and we didn’t want our vacation to end, so we decided to make it our home. That’s the short of it.

The compressed long of it is that we got fired from our jobs. We moved to Arizona. We started our own business. We spent every dime we had to grow our business. We finally scaled our business. And THEN we moved. It was ahellofa four years.

So that’s some insight into our move, per the request of our awesome private Facebook group. But today’s fuckery isn’t about rosy new beginnings or how cool it is that I now have two avocado trees, countless papaya trees, banana plants galore, and coconuts growing wild in my yard (though, did I hit the plant based jackpot with that or what?)

Oh no. Today’s fuckery is a reminder that change can be gut-wrenchingly painful, regardless of how beautiful the awaiting landscape. Even if that change brings you something that you really want, it can still sting like a sonofabitch as you approach the diving board.

And this is with anything. Changing how you eat. Moving. Leaving your partner. Changing jobs. Starting a new exercise regime. Caring for a loved one who needs you.

The outcome of these things might be golden, but it doesn’t mean that doing them is easy.

And this is exactly why we resist change. Even if we KNOW it’s good for us. Even if we WANT the outcome more than anything. It’s because the shit leading up to that change can suck as much as being puked on by a drunk chick when you’re fresh off a plane from paradise.

And the truth is, we ALL share the human experience of change. It might look different on the outside from person to person, because each of us wrap things up and reveal to the world what we want the world to see based on our personal sensitivities, our vulnerabilities and our comfort levels.

But at our core, we all feel the same shit.

Change can hit us in the pit of our stomach. It can make our head pound. It can make us feel dizzy and disconnected. It can make us sick with worry. It can make us unsure of ourselves. It can tire us out. It can blind us with fear. And it can make us really damn sad. And sometimes….sometimes all these things hit us at the same complex, uncomfortable moment. Now that’s what I call a shit show – especially if we desperately WANT the outcome of the change we’re facing.

For me, leaving Arizona and moving to Hawaii was incredibly painful and sad. Even though it’s exactly what I wanted. Here’s why.

Saying goodbye to my parents was unbelievably hard. Preparing to no longer have my papakins stop by for a visit every morning during his walk. Getting used to the idea of not having my mom stop by my house during the day just to say hi and chat. Not being able to give them a big hug and smell the familiar and soothing smell that you only get from your parents. I still have a thick ass knot in my stomach when I think about it.

Saying goodbye to my close friends – especially my friends who are expecting a baby in a few months. Damn it! I love babies but I’m not having any. And I wanted to hold their baby ALL THE TIME. You know those friends who within seconds of meeting them you know that you’ll be friends with them forever? Yeah – leaving those friends is stupidly hard.

Saying goodbye to the city and specifically to the house where two of the most important things in my life happened, and one of the saddest things in my life happened, was unexpectedly hard and tear jerking.

Before Luanne and I moved into the house that we just moved from, we lived in a big beautiful craftsman house with an orgasmic kitchen, great floors, high ceilings, blah, blah, blah. We decided to move into a tiny, funky, humble house to save money so that neither of us had to take a full time job while we were building and growing Clean Food Dirty Girl.

When we first moved in, I wasn’t a happy camper – mainly because living in that house felt a lot like camping. The kitchen was the size of a pinto bean. I barely fit in the shower. The whole thing had old yucky carpeting. The windows belonged to that of a shed. And we didn’t have AC (not pretty when it’s 110°F / 43°C outside ).

Turns out, the funkiness didn’t matter. That tiny house was the best and most special house I’ve ever lived in.

That was the house where I got sober and started Clean Food Dirty Girl.

Two of the things that I am most proud of and hold dearest to my heart. Leaving the walls that held the struggle, the magic, the inspiration and the happiness of these two epic things in my life was counter-intuitive and came with tears.

That was also the house where my cat, Panda is buried. Shit – I already said goodbye to my Panda boy when he died – why was leaving the backyard that holds his decomposed body so fucking hard? I’ll answer:

Because you don’t want to let go Molly, and even though you know that Panda isn’t in the hole that you and your dad dug for his lifeless body, walking away from it was like walking away from him because it’s the only tangible connection that you have to him and you were comforted by the fact that your Pandies was laid to rest in your backyard, and you could go out to his grave everyday and talk to him and tell him how much you miss him.

Come on Mol, wipe your eyes my dear, this fuckery isn’t going to write itself.

So – what I’m getting at as I sit in my new house in the lush jungle, with rain gently falling outside, hundreds of birds chirping, avocados ready to be picked, and the beautiful pacific ocean just 10 minutes away, is that I write this with a heavy heart and salty watery eyes.

Because change is fucking hard,
even if it’s exactly what you want.

So the next time you go through change and you’re having a hard time with it – even if it’s for the best- even if it’s something that you really, really want, know that there’s not a damn thing wrong with how you’re feeling.

Part of being human is accepting the complexity of feeling excited and sad in the same breath. Happy and terrified in the same second. Joyful and unsure in the same moment.

When this happens, do not feel bad.

Do not feel guilty.

Do not feel the need to explain yourself or make someone else understand it.

Own it.

Feel it.

Do not run away.

Go through it and allow it to be yours.

Hold on to the reality of impermanence and know that the intensity of your feelings will eventually come down a notch.

They will morph. They will change.

And finally, remind yourself that it would be weird if things didn’t change.

If there’s one thing that I know for sure, it’s that neither you nor I are alone on this beautiful and sometimes painful ride. We’re in this together and I thank you for being part of it.

Eating nourishing food during times of suckage makes things a little easier. And sometimes a little easier makes a big, huge difference. My weekly Plant Fueled Meal Plans will keep you on track and inspired to eat whole plants foods, regardless of the changes you’re going through. They’re almost as good as having ripe papayas 30 feet from your front door.

Are you going through or are you wanting some changes to happen? Talk to me in the comments below!

Today’s recipe is part two of last Saturday’s recipe.

Fried rice without oil is a thing – and it’s damn delicious. I adapted this recipe from Luanne’s staple fried rice recipe. Thanks Lu!

Plant Based Veggie Fried Black Rice and Lentils

Author: Molly Patrick of Clean Food Dirty Girl

Ingredients

  • 1/4 cup red onion 30g, diced
  • 2 garlic cloves minced
  • 1 cup cabbage green or red // 90g, sliced and chopped
  • 1 cup mushrooms 85g, sliced
  • 2 cups Black Rice and Lentils 285g
  • Sprinkle of white pepper
  • 2 tablespoons soy sauce
  • Avocado slices
  • Sesame seeds

Instructions

  • Heat a large skillet over medium heat for about a minute. Add the onion and cook for about 4 minutes, adding a tablespoon of water when they start to stick to the pan.
  • Add the garlic, cabbage and mushrooms, sprinkle with a little salt and stir. Place a lid on the skillet and allow the mushrooms to sweat. This should take about two minutes.
  • When the mushrooms start to get soft, take off the lid and place the Black Lentils and Rice, white pepper and soy sauce to the skillet and cook for about 3 minutes, until everything is heated. At the very end, crank up the heat to high for about 1 minute. Add salt and pepper to taste.
  • Top each portion with a few avocado slices and some sesame seeds when serving.

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Wishing you a happy week. May it be filled with embracing the suck and then enjoying the bliss.

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7 Comments

  1. Leaf on June 7, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    Holy crap! I was terrified you were saying goodbye to the Internet! I would desperately miss your recipes and fuckery. Congratulations on the move!

    • Molly Patrick on June 7, 2016 at 12:27 pm

      Never!!!
      Sorry for the scare!
      Thank you – Hawaii is fucking beautiful.
      xo
      Molly

  2. Jane Millar on June 12, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    Thanks for sending me the story of your move. I spent about 22 years on Oahu until I moved to the Pacific Northwest 25+ years ago. I’ve never looked back. It’s a beautiful place, indeed, but circumstances required my return to the Mainland. I truly miss those ripe mangoes right off the tree, the intoxicating fragrance of plumeria, the temperature and buoyancy of that salt water, but I don’t miss the huge flying roaches or the mosquitoes which adore me. Good on you for making the change. I wish you well. It is truly a glorious place.

    • Molly Patrick on June 12, 2016 at 1:23 pm

      Hey Jane –
      It’s such a special place. We are loving it so far.
      Thank you for your kind words. We also love the Pacific Northwest.
      We were thinking about moving there at one point, but decided on Hawaii.
      I look forward to visiting again!
      xo
      Molly

  3. Julia Nica on June 13, 2016 at 8:03 am

    I love this! that’s so amazing! I want to head to Thailand for a few months and live a different life than I’m accompanied to in Vancouver BC! It must be beautiful! I also joined your Facebook page! Love your content! <3

  4. regina on June 30, 2018 at 2:17 pm

    5 stars
    Molly, I just read this post today & like a lot of what you post (& Lyndsey!), it really resonated. I joined about a year ago (the blog not the meal plans- I will one day), tired of my SAD life, made some changes on my own but needed guidance. When I joined, I had left a job a few months prior that I loved but was growing jaded/burned out & ran towards a shiny new job without much thought that had new skills to learn & chances to brush up on old ones. I didn’t give the new job a fair chance, was overwhelmed w/remorse of leaving all of my friends/bosses at the old job & ran screaming back into their arms a mere 2 wks later. Leaving my old job was the worst break up of my life! Abruptly changing jobs was very uncharacteristic of me, I’m normally very cautious. I think I was having a midlife crisis. I wished I had read this post before I did that. I am still happy to be at my old job again (where I’m free to curse like a sailor unlike the restrictive new job), it really is a good fit but comfort isn’t always healthy as you stated a bit here. I needed to own it, not run from the change, i needed to give the new job a fair chance or find another new job for the growth I was looking for. I don’t believe I’m the same person who fled to the new job last year but she is still lurking around. Your blog changed a lot about how I look at my life (I’m not a self help kinda girl so this speaks to how amazing you are for me to even show interest in all of this), embracing my qualities instead of picking myself apart & thus deflating my self worth. I love this blog, the food, the FB group, and above all, the support you provide and the way you speak to our core fears. Thank you! Much love to you & the CFDG team. XO

  5. faith on July 27, 2018 at 2:45 pm

    so ummmmm… is the black rice and lentils already cooked when you add it to the pan?

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