April 30, 2022 by Molly Patrick

The next time someone is snarky about your food

Your circumstances do not make you happy or unhappy.

Your thoughts about your circumstances create your feelings. Always.

Here’s an example:

Let’s say you’re trying to eat more plant based, and your cousin, Brandon, always has something snarky to say about it. It might be easy to think Brandon hurt your feelings.

But Brandon didn’t hurt your feelings. 

Your feelings were hurt because, after Brandon came with the snark, your brain created thoughts. Those thoughts reinforced a belief that you have about yourself that you don’t like, aren’t yet comfortable with, or are judging yourself for.

Maybe you made his words mean you’re strange, and you have a belief that being strange is bad.

Maybe you made his words mean you’ll never be accepted by your family, and you really want to be accepted.

Maybe you made them mean you don’t fit in, and that’s a problem.

Your human brain made Brandon’s words mean something about you. Nothing has gone wrong, this is what human brains do.

Maybe some of these thoughts or beliefs are true for you. Maybe they aren’t. Maybe they’re beliefs you didn’t even know you had. This is juicy stuff to get curious about, but here's the takeaway for today:

When you believe someone else is the reason for your feelings, you hand them your power. Don't do that. Your power is yours. Use it to fuel, uplift, and guide your life, don’t give it away to anyone else.

Brandon can say whatever the heck he wants, then you get to decide what you make it mean.

Maybe you make it mean you deserve to hang out with people who are kind to you.
Maybe you make it mean Brandon’s social skills aren’t great.
Maybe you make it mean Brandon might be right, and that’s okay.
Maybe you make it mean absolutely nothing, and you continue eating your Chickpea Tuna Sandwich with a big-ass smile on your face.

No one else in this big beautiful world gets to dictate how you feel.

That is 100% up to you. 

When you know this truth, it doesn’t matter what anyone says about how you eat or live your life. You will stand firmly rooted in your truth, your power, and your decisions without so much as a flinch.

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Written by ex-boozer and ex-smoker, Molly Patrick that will help you eat more plants while throwing perfection down the garbage disposal.


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