January 16, 2021 by Molly Patrick

Instead of focusing on the end result, do this instead

Most people want to learn new stuff in order to achieve the result of whatever they put time into learning. Here’s how this can look:

We get super excited to learn the thing.
We make a plan to learn the thing.
We get all set up to learn the thing.
We start doing the work.
We’re not perfect.
We get frustrated and fed up.
We stop doing the work.
We tell ourselves that we tried to learn the thing, but it was just too hard.
We don’t achieve the results we want, and we walk away defeated.

This is one way to do it, but I have a better way.

Instead of getting excited about the end result of whatever you’re working on, get excited about the learning process, including the frustration that you will definitely experience along the way.

Yes, the end result might be lovely, but you will learn more about yourself and expand more as a human if you’re totally open and willing to get frustrated during the process without giving up.

Here’s an example from my own life.

I started water coloring last year because I wanted a creative outlet that wasn’t related to my business.

Some of my paintings are okay, others are surprisingly good, and some literally go in the trash. None of that matters though because all of them benefit me, especially the ones that go in the trash. Not because practice makes me a better painter, but because practice makes me a better human when I allow myself to suck at something without giving up.

I say bring on the fails! I want to paint the ugliest damn thing that anyone has ever painted! And then I want to try again. THAT is when I will grow as a human. If I can eventually paint a nice picture, that would be cool, but it’s not why I do it.

You can apply this to anything in your life that you have tried and given up on because it was too hard. Spoiler alert, it wasn’t too hard. That was just a story you told yourself because you were so focused on the outcome.

Whatever it is you want to do, whether it’s eating a plant based diet, getting in shape, batch cooking, learning a new language, writing a book, following our meal plans, meditating, playing guitar, learning ballet, or starting a business, I know you can do it.

You just have to allow yourself to fail multiple times along the way and keep going.

Do that, and you won’t only achieve the results, you will also be a person who can handle the results once you reach them.

Today over on the blog, Brit is sharing an important lesson she learned when she was going through cancer treatment. We’re also giving you a super easy recipe for whole food plant based Romesco Sauce that will delight your taste buds and leave you moaning for more.


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